With the new year comes resolutions to try new and different things. While eating clean and green is important, keeping your sex life exciting will equally lead to a more satisfying life. This year, we at Juliette’s challenge you to spice things up in the bedroom and step away from the vanilla. We understand trying new things is daunting, especially because of the never-ending list of kinks out there. So, to help you out, we’ve put together some of the most popular ones for you to dip your toes in:

Role-play

There’s nothing like acting out your wildest sexual fantasies, and role-play is one of the best ways you can do that. Step into the shoes of someone else as you explore a range of possible sexual scenarios through play-acting and creativity.

Here are some possible scenarios to get you started:

  • boss/employee
  • teacher/student
  • doctor/patient
  • neighbours

Dominance/Submission

Normally known as BDSM, this kink can refer to many different sub-genres and typically involves some sort of powerplay between two individuals, one dominant and one submissive, that can be but are not limited to:

Impact Play

Impact play is exactly what it suggests: the act of striking someone with either hands or toys for sexual gratification. This BDSM practice may sound intimidating, and even a little extreme, but the buttocks and inner thighs have the most protective fat and muscle, so these are good places to start experimenting with before moving on to other more sensitive areas.

Here are a few tools we suggest: floggers, paddles, straps, canes, crops, single-tail whips and of course, your very own hands!

Bondage

A form of play that involves the physical restraining of a person for sexual satisfaction of both parties, with the restrained one left vulnerable to a variety of different sex acts. The restrained partner is dependent on the other for sexual gratification, while the free partner relishes in the control they have been given, and often derive pleasure from this.

Bondage tools can involve anything from simple ropes and handcuffs to sex furniture and even cages.

Sensory Play/Deprivation

This type of play involves cutting off one or more of the submissive’s sensations while the dominant controls where what kind, and how much stimulation to give their partner. The loss of control, combined with the fear of not knowing where the next sensation is coming from on the receiving end, can undoubtedly make for an exciting experience!

Some popular types of sensory play and deprivation include blindfolds, gags, earphones/plugs and the use of hot wax/ice.

Experimenting? Don’t Forget!

  • Establishing Consent

An essential step in trying out any sexual activity is to make sure both parties are equally willing and can give a clearly articulated “yes” to any
specific situation.

  • Communication

Pick a safe word that you both agree on. When uttered, this signals “stop right now”. Pick another caution word as well that you can both use to
mean “slow down” or “check-in with me” instead of halting the play altogether.

  • Aftercare

Kink play can both be emotionally and physically draining, so be sure to take care of your partner after sex. Remember, everyone is different, and their sexual needs can differ as well, so make sure to communicate with your partner about your likes and dislikes about the experience so you can both find something you enjoy!

Try it Out for Yourself!

As Auckland’s premier escort agency, we certainly know a thing or two about fulfilling kinks. If you’re looking for an experience unlike any other, or if you have any kinks you want to try out that we haven’t mentioned, let us arrange an encounter with one of our exquisite courtesans to kick off the new year. Get in touch today.